This informative and helpful guide will assist your clients in making positive strides toward a nonviolent life. Some of the tips and suggestions that are further explained in this workbook include:Acknowledge to yourself and to others that you have a problem with anger, abuse, and controlAddress mental health and chemical use issues if they are present in your lifeCome to know that, when you become abusive, you are always feeling inadequate, powerless, and unlovableRealize that controlling and abusive behavior hurts you and those you loveUnderstand that anger is different from abuse and controlRecognize that becoming abusive is always a choiceInstead of blaming others, take responsibility for what you feel, how you think, and how you actAccept that you cannot control or change other peopleRemember that you can always take a time-outThink about the possible consequences before you become controlling and abusiveIdentify what triggers your anger and your abusive and controlling attitudes and behaviorsNotice what you are thinking: Your thoughts can increase your escalation or calm you downBecome aware of all your feelings, not just your anger, and learn to respectfully communicate them to othersTurn conflicts into positive problem-solving opportunitiesControl, abuse, and violence are learned: Think about the messages you received from your family and from society about what it is to be a manRedefine manhood as nonviolent and nonabusiveTake the risk to count on other men for emotional supportLearn to feel a genuine sense of pride by taking control of how you view the world and how you actStart to believe that you can truly change the controlling and abusive parts of who you have been
